Male or Female Therapist? Choose the Person Who Suits Your Massage
Ojisan Relaxing Station Team · · 3 min read
If you are choosing between a male and a female therapist, I suggest starting with two questions: what kind of care would you like, and who would you feel comfortable with?
Gender alone does not tell you a person’s pressure, technique or working style. A male therapist will not necessarily use stronger pressure, and a female therapist will not necessarily be gentler or more precise. It helps to separate the things that actually matter.
1. Individual Skills and the Service You Book
Choose your service and the areas you would like attention on first. You might want a whole-body break or more time on your neck, shoulders and shoulder blades. Then ask the branch about arranging a therapist for that service.
A person’s familiarity with a service and their experience are useful things to ask about directly. Neither should be inferred from gender or physique. If unsure how to choose, explain what you would like and ask the branch for guidance based on the people available.
2. Talk About Pressure and Focus Areas
Comfortable pressure means different things to different people. Give a rough preference, such as light, medium or firmer, and explain which areas you want attention on and which to avoid. Naming an area is more useful than simply asking for a good massage.
If you enjoyed a previous session, describe what felt right. Perhaps you preferred pressure to increase gradually, or wanted to be asked before certain areas were touched. You do not need technical vocabulary.
Once the massage starts, your actual comfort matters more than what you expected when booking. Ask for lighter pressure or a pause immediately if needed. You do not have to endure discomfort because you previously requested firmer pressure.
3. Personal Comfort, Touch and Privacy
If you feel more comfortable with a therapist of a particular gender, mention that when checking availability. You do not need to give a detailed personal explanation. Preferences about touch, privacy and communication are worth sharing.
You may want an area left untouched or an explanation before changing position. You can still ask for these things after choosing someone you feel comfortable with. Choosing a gender does not replace a conversation about boundaries.
A personal preference is not evidence that another group gives worse massages. Gender should not be used to decide someone’s medical suitability either.
Send a Short, Useful Booking Enquiry
Include your service, focus areas, pressure preference and any therapist preference so the branch can check the schedule. The messages below are examples you can adapt to your preferences.
If gender is not a concern for you, say so and use the message to explain what you would like from your session.
For the Same Therapist, Ask the Branch to Check First
If you enjoyed a previous session, provide the therapist’s name and your preferred date and time. Let the branch check before confirming. Do not assume every gender is available on every shift or that the same person will definitely be free.
If the times do not match, ask about another day or describe what you liked before deciding whether to choose a different appointment. Having enough information and feeling comfortable matters more than making a quick choice based on gender alone.
Tell the Branch Your Preferences and Check Availability
Choose Flagship on Phutthamonthon Sai 2 or Suan Phak, check the current menu, and share your service, focus areas, pressure and therapist preferences. Ask the branch to check the schedule before confirming. Include a name if you would like the same therapist again.
Developed from ideas in an Ojisan TikTok post by the Ojisan Relaxing Station Team, with additional guidance for readers.
